On Being Overwhelmed
Being Overwhelmed
The Buddha taught that I person willing to hate is willing
to commit any atrocity. He called it an “evil mind”. It corrupts all of our
motivations, even those that are quite honorable. Hatred creates in us the
ultimate narcissist. It broods the
illusion in the mind of the angry hater that their views, opinions and beliefs
are so important that everyone must listen and obey them and believe as they
believe.
“He who hates his brother is a murderer and a murder does
not have eternal life.” The line is from 1 John 3:15 in the New Testament, the
Christian Dharma. I used it in an interfaith teaching not long ago. I was
admonished by a couple of ministers who were also presenting who told me that
John, the spokesman for God in this case, meant this verse only to refer to
hating Christian brothers and not persons outside that faith. So, is it okay to
hate everyone else? It seems a legalist interpretation of a universal truth.
Unfortunately, I have heard similar nonsense from some of my Brothers and
Sisters in the Dharma. It’s a sort of “if-you’re-not-one-of-us,
you’re-against-us” argument.
The Buddha also gave teachings about hate.
Whoever through desire, hate or fear,
Or ignorance should transgress the Dhamma,
All his glory fades away
Like the moon during the waning half.
Whoever through desire, hate or fear,
Or ignorance never transgresses the Dhamma,
All his glory ever increases
Like the moon during the waxing half.
— Digha Nikāya 31
Sigalovada Sutta: The Discourse to Sigala
The Layperson's Code of
Discipline
To act
in the grip of selfishness and hate, leads downwards to inner deterioration, to
greater suffering and to rebirth in the worlds of misery. The pair of verses
that open the Dhammapada introduce the theme that reappears in diverse
formulations throughout the work.
It cannot be much clearer than in these verses, “(2.) Mind precedes all mental
states. Mind is their chief; they are all mind-wrought. If with a pure mind a
person speaks or acts happiness follows him like his never-departing shadow. (3.) "He abused me, he
struck me, he overpowered me, he robbed me." Those who harbor such
thoughts do not still their hatred.” One who is preoccupied, obsessed with real
or imagined sins against them will never find peace. They look outward instead
of inward, they make of themselves a victim of their own anger, hatred and
narcissism.
Liars, thieves and adulterers
don’t fair much better until they repent and let go of the lying, stealing and
misconduct, but hatred seems to be a special class of unskillfulness. Hatred
murders and devaluates the lives of the ones who are hated. Liars, thieves and
sexually promiscuous do not intestinally seek to harm another living being, one
who hates desires just that. One may lie for a good cause, like saving the life
of another, a hater has no good cause. “(318.) Those
who imagine evil where there is none, and do not see evil where it is —
upholding false views, they go to states of woe.” Such a person has a hate
that raises the specter of “righteous anger”, as if a disease can be righteous.
Have we heard of “righteous cancer”, “righteous
Ebola”, or even a “righteous Chlamydia”?
Hatred is a kind of violence that inures not simply the victim
of the hater but also the hater. It is spawned from the place of dire ignorance
and confusion, the inability to see clearly what is and what is not. It debases
the value of the one who hates more than the one who is hated. For this reason
the Buddha taught,
136. When
the fool commits evil deeds, he does not realize (their evil nature). The
witless man is tormented by his own deeds, like one burnt by fire.
137. He
who inflicts violence on those who are unarmed, and offends those who are
inoffensive, will soon come upon one of these ten states:
138-140 Sharp
pain, or disaster, bodily injury, serious illness, or derangement of mind,
trouble from the government, or grave charges, loss of relatives, or loss of
wealth, or houses destroyed by ravaging fire; upon dissolution of the body that
ignorant man is born in hell.
We live in a world seemingly hopeful for greater debasement
as we find more individuals who both hate and are hated. It spreads like a
cancer over our culture and validated only by delusion and unawareness. This
can lead only to greater harm, hostility and violence in the world. "Kalamas, being given to hate, and being
overwhelmed and vanquished mentally by hate, this man takes life, steals, commits
adultery, and tells lies; he prompts another too, to do likewise. Will that be
long for his harm and ill?" — "Yes, venerable sir." (The Kalama
Sutta, Anguttara Nikāya 3.65.
Hatred arises through anger. We are admonished to give up
anger in the Kodhavagga chapter of the Dhammapada, where anger is connected to
conceit, an overinflated ego, and called a fetter, an attachment. It gives rise
to greater suffering and stress, but doesn’t that feel good? Isn’t that what we
as 21st Century beings crave? We have done much to increase stress
and suffering in our lives and the lives of those around us, both known and strange
to us.
An angry person is far from enlightenment.
Guard against anger
erupting in body;
in body, be restrained.
Having abandoned bodily misconduct,
live conducting yourself
well
in
body.
Guard against anger
erupting in speech;
in speech, be restrained.
Having abandoned verbal
misconduct,
live conducting yourself
well
in
speech.
Guard against anger
erupting in mind;
in mind, be restrained.
Having abandoned mental
misconduct,
live conducting yourself
well
in
mind.
Those restrained in body
—
the enlightened —
restrained in speech
& in mind
—
enlightened —
are the ones whose
restraint is secure.
—
verses 231-234 The Dhammapada
An “angry
run-of-the-mill person can kill” even his mother. (Kodhana Sutta). You can
trust a liar to lie, a thief to steal, an adulterer to cheat, and a drunk to
drink, but you can trust a hater filled with anger to kill. Such a person
should not be admired or entrusted; such a person deserves pity and to be seen
through a very wary eye, as they are capable of doing great harm to anyone,
even those they love
One who cannot curb their wrath when it arises
is a pitiable creature indeed. Like all living beings, this is one who deserves compassion.
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